Listen up, womenfolk, and ask yourself this question

Are you a Twilight Zone toy? 

What is this contraption, you ask?  I’ll explain in further detail, but, according to Laura Schlessinger, it’s the epitome of what some women become when they date or long to be with a man. 

So many women lose their identity when they meet “the man of their dreams”.  They become interested in the things he likes…EVERYTHING he likes.  The girl begins watching Game of Thrones and takes up bowling, when that is the last thing she’d be caught doing before she met him. She drops everything she used to do just so she can be the perfect girl, the girl she thinks he wants.    

She’s become a Twilight Zone toy.  If someone is holding her or is with her, she changes and becomes animated and full of life. If they put her down and leave the room, she becomes an inanimate object.  The man becomes the “battery” that gives the woman life.  She has no identity without a male figure there next to her.  She feels that approval, purpose, safety, and security can only be had through him.  That she's only worth something if she is with him. 

 …My eyes are bulging.  WHYYYY!  Why do women do this?!  We’re worth more than that.  YOU are worth more than that!

Men cannot be the sole reason for our existence, nor do they WANT to be.  Men are often burdened with the task of being the source of affirmation and approval for the woman’s self-esteem. They are drawn to women who exhibit self-confidence and set goals for themselves. A man wants to share a woman’s life, not BE her life.

So please, please, please, if you find yourself acquiescing to everything your man wants and does, know that you are your own individual.  You can earn money, travel, make decisions, and have fun all on your own. I find it helps if you make a list of things you want to accomplish for yourself, even if it is the smallest of all accomplishments.   Learn a new language, take a pottery class, go to a movie by yourself.  It all works. 

Know that you are capable of forming a healthy relationship where you and your significant other have separate identities and personalities. It makes for a much better, longer lasting relationship.